Friendship…and Relationship

Prolog

Tulisan ini kudapatkan dari sebuah kolom di harian Philipina (lupa namanya) mungkin penulisnya Honey Carandang ( juga lupa..) seorang konselor terkenal di sana. It touched me a lot, karena waktu itu aku jauh dari segala support system dan merasa butuh benar persahabatan.  Tulisan ini membuatku merefleksikan arti positif sebuah persahabatan… and off course relationship meskipun yang berakhir pahit sekalipun.


People come into your life for a REASON, a SEASON, or a LIFETIME.  When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person…

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

Epilog

Di samping itu semua, ada yang disebut “toxic” people. Dia adalah sahabat semu,  memberi rasa nyaman yang memabukkan. Seperti segumpal tali puteri pada tanaman, ia kuat membelit, sampai suatu saat kita sadar bahwa akarnya telah mracuni hidup kita. Pelan-pelan ia menguras energi, mental, emosional dan mungkin finansial. Kita menjadi segumpal tanah liat yang bisa dibentuk seturut kehendaknya. Tetapi dari pihak dia, tidak ada imbal balik yang diberikan. Tidak mungkin 50-50 setiap saat, karena persahabatan atau relasi bukan ajang bisnis. Tapi setidaknya relasi haruslah memberi keseimbangan pada dua belah pihak, saling memenuhi kebutuhan,  dan tetap menyisakan ruang untuk tumbuh dan berkembang.

Angel exist, only sometimes they haven’t got wings and we call them friends.


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